Wisewoman (wisewoman) wrote in talkideas,

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Has anyone ever read a "self-help" book that actually helped them in any way?

Just curious...

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I have read "self-help" books that have helped, but usually not in the way they intended.

A lot of times I will pick them up and thumb through them and find valuable clues... Little tidbits that fit into the massive puzzle of my problem. Then I can use those clues to find other resources and eventually develop an answer.

Or I will find tidbits that prove I am not alone in dealing with whatever I am dealing with. There are few new things under the sun, so I figure at the very least somebody somewhere experienced something similar to what I am going through. Sometimes that helps very much.

I don't think I have ever read one all the way through. Mostly I stick to casual browsing... Otherwise I start to get a little sick. =)
i read a book that changed my whole perspective of...well everything.

"10 secrets to success and inner peace" by wayne dyer

of course, diff books speak to diff people, but something about this particular book just spoke to me. i read it when i was 20 years old and i still refer to it from time to time when im feeling scared/down/angry etc.
I've read something by Dyer, but I don't think it's that one. The part I remember from the one I've got is "You either get it, or you don't."

Actually, seems to me, it has 10 rules in it, but they might be secrets to success...can't remember.

Are you willing to elaborate a little on what it was about this book that had such a profound effect on you? Was it advice that you could take to heart, or was it the particular time at which you read it?

I've read many "self-help" books that helped me, in one way or another. Actually, I think I may be attending graduate school in "self-help." :P
Really? How would you do that? What subject heading would that come under, and what graduate school would offer it?

And I'd be interested to know the titles of the books that helped you personally.

Well.. I'm a student at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, which centers our education on human potential, spirituality, and fun things like that. As a graduate student, studying the material is like reading one self-help book after another, in a way.

Some favorites:
-Anatomy of the Spirit, by Carolyn Myss
-The Thirst for Wholeness: Attachment, Addiction, and the Spiritual Path, by Christina Grof
-Emotional Alchemy: How the Mind Can Heal the Heart, by Tara Bennett-Goleman
-Care of the Soul: A Guide for Cultivating Depth and Sacredness in Everyday Life, by Thomas Moore
-Journey of Awakening: A Meditator's Guidebook, by Ram Dass
-Awakening Intuition, by Frances E. Vaughan
-Psychosynthesis, by John Firman and Ann Gila
(Psychosynthesis helped me compartmentalize different aspects of my psyche. This fall, I'll have the good fortune of having Firman and Gila as my teachers, and I'll be reading their book "The Primal Wound")

Hi there everybody !
One particular book that's been in my life for over ten years now, and continually offers me fresh perspective on things/situation/people/behavior is "The Teachings of Don Carlos" by Victor Sanchez. At the moment I am dealing with "the petty tyrant" once again (which ideally can be ANYTHING or person which oppresses you... at work, partners, or just the time-eating monster... the possibilities are endless here.............), embracing the technique of dealing with petty tyrants (and its long-lasting effects) once again........ (till I forget to apply it again... hey, it still happens !). I have found this book has helped tremendously in making me responsible and aware of that responsibility for my own actions, my own life, my own problems... that's a powerful tool.

~This community is a great *idea* by the way ^_^ :)
Thank you! (For both the book reference and the comment on the community.)

"the little book of confidence"... i don't believe everything in it, but most things have been very helpful for me. it has helped me many times in my life.

...it's a mini version of "feel the fear and do it anyway" (which i personally did not like, i didn't like the style in which it was written), but this mini version gets straight to the point.

it's basically about choosing to have a positive outlook on life.
Thanks for the rec. I believe there are several books now about choosing a positive outlook. The original, of course, was Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning...not exactly a self-help book.

Heck yeah. :) As a guy who has co-existed with panic disorder for 30 years, I've found:

[1] The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne - a very practical and up-to-date guide.

[2] Hope and Help for Your Nerves by Claire Weekes - initially found her style a bit grandmotherly which took some getting used to. But once I zoomed-in on her message, she was right on the mark.

[3] How to Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You by Albert Ellis - a general but very relevant text on anxiety from the father of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy